“Beauty is in the eye of the. . . creator.” A. W. Tozer
Our society tells us from the time we are five what women should look like (Barbie Dolls, Disney Princesses) and how we need to be dependent on men to get us out of bad situations (damsel in distress anyone?).
But society also says we have to look good for our “guy” to come and save us.
Isn’t it interesting that the ultimate savior – Jesus Christ, saved us before we were even born? Fat or skinny, acne-face or smooth skin, small cup size or large. . . God doesn’t care about what’s on the outside, he cares about our heart.
And he will save us every time.
Let me be the first woman to confess my own insecurities: I’m uncomfortable in a swimsuit, I don’t like to wear tight clothing and I’m extremely self-conscious of my hair and my makeup if I choose to wear it.
What’s worse, is we as women are horrible at comparing ourselves, especially our looks, to other women:
“I wish I could have legs like those.”
“I wish I could rock that cute little dress.”
“I want her perfect tan.”
“I wish my cup sizes were bigger.”
“If only my hair could look like that.”
“Dang! That woman rocks that bikini and I wish I could have her abs.”
I’ve had these thoughts, and social media makes it so much worse. If you struggle with your body image to the point of having anxiety in your life, cut social media from your life first and foremost.
But the root of the problem, beyond envy, is that we as women long to be loved and wanted and desired.
We want to be cherished.
And society says you have to look photoshopped or drop dead gorgeous to get a man to love you.
That, sadly, is the biggest lie that fans through the books we read, the movies we watch, the magazines we see at the stores, the news and even the white house press secretary is gorgeous.
Society has made beauty the standard for too much.
Because the real standard should be love and compassion.
When I was a kid, before I met Jesus, I did not want to be friends with overweight kids… and I wasn’t. At the elementary level, I was prejudiced against corpulent people!! And I hate that I was biased and didn’t even realize it.
Why? Because if you were overweight, you would get made fun of and picked on at the playground.
Because society had taught me that unless you looked the part, you can’t play the part. . . I let myself become a part of the problem.
Thankfully, we worship a God who is not biased as we are.
He loves us, warts and all. And Jesus died as a showcase of that love to save us from our sins, and we can find peace and be complete in him.
Because our bodies are dying, let’s face it.
From the moment we are born, we have a death date ticking ahead of us. And every second, our skin gets more aged, our body accumulates more lines and wrinkles as grey hair peeps in and we start sagging in places. . . And then we die. We can’t take beauty with us to the grave. Have you ever looked at someone’s tombstone and read: “Jane Smith, born this year, died that year, and wow she was smoking hot,”?
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised.” (Proverbs 31:30)
The beauty found within our hearts lasts forever – and that type of beauty comes from the Lord as we seek him and find purpose in his Word and on his mission.
Let me be honest with you,
I’ve never struggled to the point of throwing up dinner to stay skinny or not eating to do so.
However, I have looked at myself in the mirror and wished I had prettier eyes, less freckles, more muscles, abs of steel, etc.
But God didn’t make me to be a “super model” in the world’s eyes, he made me to be his child – perfect in HIS image.
So, when the world looks at me, let them see Jesus.
Let them see my imperfections,
Let them see my weaknesses,
Let them see my failures, my flaws, my struggles or my pain,
And let them see how Jesus overcomes it all to make me into his new creation and who he wants me to be.
Let them see Jesus.
Please, if you need help, reach out to someone you trust today. There is hope and life is more than what we look like. Start on your journey to peace.
In love and truth,
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